How Do You Feel About Yourself

This questionnaire is designed to measure how you feel about yourself. Please answer each item as carefully and honestly as you can by placing a number by each one as follows:

1 = Never

2 = Rarely

3 = A little of the time

4 = Some of the time

5 = A good part of the time

6 = Most of the time

7 = Always

___1. I feel that people would not like me if they really knew me well.

___2. I feel that others do things much better than I do.

___3. I feel that I am an attractive person.

___4. I feel confident in my ability to deal with other people.

___5. I feel thatI am likely to fail at things I do.

___6. I feel that people really like to talk with me.

___7. I feel that I am a very competent person.

___8. When I am with other people I feel that they are glad I am with them.

___9. I feel that I make a good impressions on others.

___10. I feel confident that I can begin new relationships if I want to.

___11. I feel that I am ugly.

___12. I feel that I am a boring person.

___13. I feel very nervous when I am with strangers.

___14. I feel confident in my ability to learn new things.

___15. I feel good about myself.

___16. I feel ashamed about myself.

___17. I feel inferior to other people.

___18. I feel that my friends find me interesting.

___19. I feel that I have a good sense of humor.

___20. I get angry at myself over the way I am.

___21. I feel relaxed meeting new people.

___22. I feel that other people are smarter than myself.

___23. I do not like myself.

___24. I feel confident in my ability to cope with difficult situations.

___25. I feel that I am not very likable.

___26. My friends value me a lot.

___27. I am afraid that I will appear stupid to others.

___28. I feel that I am an okay person.

___29. I feel that I can count on myself to manage things well.

___30. I wish I could just disappear when I am around other people.

___31. I feel embarrassed to let others hear my ideas.

___32. I feel that I am a nice person.

___33. I feel that if I could be more like other people then I would feel better about myself.

___34. I feel that I get pushed around more than others.

___35. I feel that people like me.

___36. I feel that people have a good time when they are with me.

___37. I feel confident that I can do well in whatever I do.

___38. I trust the competence of others more than I trust my own abilities.

___39. I feel that I mess things up.

___40. I wish that I were someone else.

Retyped from The Psychologist’s Book of Personality Tests.

The following items must be reversed (1=7,2=6,3=5,4=4,5=3,6=2,7=1):1,2,5,11,13,16,17,20,22,23,25,27,30,31,33,34,38,39, and 40. After reversing these items, add your responses together to obtain your final score.

NORMS

Score   Percentile

260      85

244      70

227      50

210      30

194      15

Score 85 – above

Extremely high self-esteem may be a sign of maladjustment. You might think you are the most wonderful human being alive, even though your flaws and limitations are obvious to all who care to take even a cursory look. Sometimes called defensive high self-esteem, the people with this quality seem to be capable of putting a positive spin on even the worst failures.

Score 70 – 84

It appears that people with moderately high self-esteem are the best adjusted. They generally feel good about themselves, but they are capable of acknowledging their flaws and doing something about them.

Score 50 – 69

Modest self-esteem people often make caring, loyal friends. Because they are convinced of their own inadequacies, they are more than happy to shift the focus of attention away from themselves onto those around them. These people’s self-doubts should motivate them to do their best.

Score below 30

You undoubtedly deserve to feel better about yourself. The first evidence that you deserve to feel better about yourself is that you are reading these words. That means you care about becoming a better person, and you care about how others react to you. However, poor self-esteem has caused you to cut yourself off from others completely, you probably have several people in your life who care about you and value the time they spend with you. That alone shows you have reason to feel good about yourself. make a list of your strengths. Ask your family and friends for their suggestions. When you find yourself obsessing about your limitations, get out your list and read it out loud. If you are convinced your negative self-evaluation is justified, do something about it.